Dating someone from another country
Perhaps he is on your turf for a long work stint abroad, or you are on his to study and explore.Or maybe you are both navigating the perils of living in a new country at the same time.But it’s not all fried meat and tantalizing spices. No matter how mature and adult your relationship is, taking him skiing, making him his first grilled cheese, or even watching Mean Girls together (that’s a cultural custom, right? Your partner is undoubtedly more engaging and interesting than any international newspaper, so instantly she becomes your new source of information when it comes to learning about her home country.In a few weeks, you find yourself able to talk easily about the bus strikes of 2011 or the rigged elections of 2003, and boy does that feel good. When a pesky co-worker or curious uncle brings up the 1978 Rebellion and its effects on international trade, you can feel a little bit under informed. Probably one of the worst parts about being one half of of a multi-cultural couple is that one of you might, in fact, call a different country home.Dating someone of another heritage is one thing, but how about when you are seeing someone who is from a completely different country than you, with opposite cultural views, meanings and traditions? We didn’t start dating until nine months after we knew each other, so the only interactions that we had were “Hi”, and “Bye” and “You look good”. That would be it, except for the fact that he has lived in the Middle-East up until 7 years ago when he came to Canada.Hopefully the visit/stay/vacation is short, and saying goodbye simply means a few skype dates and phone calls until you see each other again.So why not open yourself up to someone who has a different background, speaks a different language, and was born in a different country? Then check out our take on the 6 first date spots that must be avoided.
I was also not okay with the idea of arrange marriages, oppressive gender roles, and not being able to meet his parents.Never include your personal contact information in your profile, especially telephone numbers, email, home address or your last name.Only provide your contact information to another user when your instincts tell you this is someone you can trust. This makes it easy to quarantine any unwanted mail.While he values different things, we’ve taught each other a lot of things we otherwised wouldn’t have understood or reflected on. His upbringing in Africa and the Middle-East has taught him the value of family, honesty, hard work, and generosity.He has something I don’t have- the experience of having nothing and therefore valuing everything.
What we do share deeply is our sense of being mixed, being isolated, and on a more rewarding note, being so alike in so many different ways.